Living together does not always imply a common bed, but it makes sense to strive for this.
It would seem what could be more pleasant than falling asleep in an embrace with a loved one, but a romantic mood does not always guarantee sweet dreams and sound sleep.
Research by somnologists (scientists who study sleep and sleep related problems) confirms that today about 25% of couples sleep in separate beds. It’s about those who live together. Of these, 10% went, as they say, even further and spend their nights in separate rooms. Why? Because it’s more comfortable that way.
Despite the fact that those who share bed at night are still in the obvious majority, about 26% of partners admit that they sleep much more calmly and soundly alone. Even among those who prefer not to part at night, 13% sleep in an embrace with their loved one, and 63% strive to move to their side of the bed.
Interestingly, the statistics of “draft dodgers” are mainly determined by women, since they are much more likely than men to be diagnosed with insomnia and other sleep disorders. The fact is that the physiological processes caused by circadian rhythms in women proceed faster, and therefore, in particular, they sleep worse in the morning.
Women generally sleep poorly next to their partner, and men tend to sleep better together.
From the possible prerequisites for the gender gap, scientists have identified a duet of leading causes. Firstly, women are endowed with sensitive sleep because of the ability to motherhood – it does not matter whether it is realized or not. Secondly, men are more prone to snoring than the fair sex, whose sensitivity fails here too: women have twice the chances of waking up from snoring than men, and this is one of the most popular reasons for night migrations to a separate territory.
However, there is a good reason for compromising on a shared bed – other than hot sex and intimate chatter. The fact is that lying in an embrace – after making love, before or instead of – is very good for your health. Tactile contact with the body of a loved one triggers the production of oxytocin, the attachment hormone, which helps to relax, feel safe and happy serenity. In addition, oxytocin relieves pain, recharges the immune system and relieves stress. But most importantly, it helps to fall asleep.
In order not to choose between bed conversations and separate bedrooms, here are some strategies to help you get enough sleep together:
A large bed
The idea is not to deprive yourself of the space that has become habitual over the years of sleeping alone. The larger the bed that fits in the bedroom, the better you will sleep.
If you and your partner are unanimous in choosing a mattress, you’re in luck. If not, invest in two single beds, matching each with an individual mattress and combining them into a two-piece sleeping space.
Have you ever woken up from the cold in the middle of the night and found that he had pulled the whole blanket over himself? Or do you like to sleep under a down, but he feels good under a cotton blanket? Try to get two separate blankets and life will improve dramatically.
If your loved one likes to sleep with the window open all year round, your love for duvets is understandable. On the other hand, this is unfair – the temperature in the shared bedroom should be comfortable for both, which is what needs to be discussed.