We figure out why going to a psychologist is not at all an extreme measure, but a normal phenomenon in our life
IN WHAT CASES IS IT WORTH TO CONTACT A PSYCHOLOGIST?
Many people still believe that going to a psychologist is an extreme measure, which should be resorted to only in exceptional cases, when “it is no longer possible to live like this any longer.” And in this they make a mistake, because by the time everything around becomes absolutely unbearable, one psychologist will no longer be able to solve the problem and they will also have to turn to a psychotherapist, and nothing will end with conversations – they will have to use medication.
In order to prevent extreme cases, when we can even talk about psychosomatic diseases, it is worth contacting a psychologist, for example, with prolonged apathy. According to an expert, if a person suddenly ceases to feel the taste of life, to enjoy good events and lives “like in a movie”, like an outside observer, out of habit, this is a sure call that something is going wrong. This cannot be attributed simply to a bad mood or a prolonged black streak. A psychologist can help prevent apathy from turning into real depression.
IS A GOOD FRIEND NOT A REPLACEMENT FOR AN EXPERIENCED PROFESSIONAL?
Also, make no mistake about the fact that loyal friends are a reliable alternative to the psychologist. Of course, the presence of people with whom you can communicate in confidence and “open your soul” is important, and this contributes to building an internal dialogue in a person, but do not forget that even the closest interlocutor is not a professional, and he can also make mistakes, give wrong advice. And given the fact that people are often not used to telling the unpleasant truth to their face (from a variety of beliefs, for example, not wanting to offend), this fact becomes obvious. A good and competent psychologist will not only look at the situation from a new angle, but also, due to his own professionalism and status, will acquire the necessary authority in the eyes of a person.
WHY SHOULD YOU NOT BE AFRAID OF GOING TO A SPECIALIST?
In fact, everything is simple here: people undergo medical examinations with a certain frequency, which, as a rule, does not cause panic in anyone, and therefore it will not be superfluous to check your psychological state if you have any doubts about this. It is not necessary to look for the most expensive specialist in the city: any qualified specialist will be able to find out if the reason for that apathy lies in the lack of vitamins or if there are internal problems behind it. So, you should be afraid of going to a psychologist exactly to the same extent as you should be afraid of a visit to any other doctor.
HOW TO FIND “YOUR OWN” PSYCHOLOGIST?
Speaking of doctors: due to an old habit, people often think that at a doctor’s appointment it is quite normal to feel discomfort in communication. Such a position in itself is erroneous, and it is definitely impossible to go to a consultation with a psychologist with such convictions. Because establishing a tone of confidence is of the utmost importance. The person should feel that the specialist not only listens attentively, but also does it with sincere affection. Only in this case, visits to a psychologist will not turn into torture and will have the desired result. If, while communicating, discomfort and “tightness” are the main emotions, you should avoid further sessions with the chosen psychologist: there will be no benefit anyway.
WHAT HAPPENS AT THE FIRST RECEPTION AND WHAT TO EXPECT IN THE FUTURE?
When going to a psychologist for the first appointment, it is advisable to thoroughly prepare and think about what problems you want to deal with with his help. Do not worry if it is difficult to decide on a specific task, or even if you cannot do it: reflection is not the easiest and most pleasant thing. However, make a list of what you would like to change in your psychological state, and try to write down (yes, write down) a kind of opening speech in which you would tell about yourself and your current life difficulties, which prompted you to see a specialist. Also, be prepared that during the first session you will not immediately “talk”, and if this happens, then, most likely, the session will not be complete without tears. You shouldn’t be ashamed of this at all. If contact has been established between you and the psychologist, then continue the visits in the rhythm in which it is convenient for you, only you know how much time you need to understand the conversation. And, of course, get ready that after a couple of visits you will be given real homework, which you will need to deal with honestly and responsibly.