False judgments that ruin our lives
A relationship between a man and a woman has its own irrational mechanisms and cultural codes that are mobile and change all the time: what was considered folk wisdom 10 years ago is now pseudo-truth. Femme4 figured out which relationship stereotypes no longer work.
THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN IS IN HER WEAKNESS
Even Shakespeare and Dumas said that the strength of a woman is in her weakness. Allegedly, using this power, a woman is able to create and destroy, awakening in a man the qualities of a patron and protector. In fact, the strength of a woman in relation to a man lies in tenderness, understanding and responsiveness, but not in defenselessness and helplessness. As a great actress once said: “Women are not the weaker sex. The weak floor is rotten boards.”
RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD WORK
“I blinded him from what was” – there is no more useless activity than remaking your partner and breaking yourself (grinding into the habits of a new person and finding compromises is a completely different story). If it’s hard to exist in a relationship, then you are on the wrong track. It shouldn’t be hard, because the very meaning of being in a couple is to make each other’s life easier and happier, and not complicate it even more. There is no need to beat on a closed door, you just made a mistake with it.
MEN LIKE BITCHES
Manual “Men love bitches.” A Guide for Too Good Women also goes into the trash. Perhaps this opinion has always been erroneous. Nobody wants to have a relationship with a conflicting and hysterical woman. Most likely, “bitchy” once became a synonym for “temperamental”, hence the misconception. Indeed, the representatives of the stronger sex are interested in courageous girls who are able to openly express their feelings, whose self-esteem does not need confirmation from the male side. Obviously, “good” in this context were considered women who were restrained and shy, and it would really be difficult for them to find a partner.
MEN ARE AFRAID OF STRONG WOMEN
The judgment opposite to the previous one has also lost its relevance in modern society. It would be fairer to note that weak men are afraid of strong women, and influential ones no longer need quivering nymphs and are increasingly choosing developing and self-confident persons as a life partner. As they say, behind every great man is a much stronger woman muse.
ALL WOMEN DREAM OF MARRIAGE
The stereotype that the goal of a woman’s whole life is to get married is cultivated by various institutions, including glossy and the wedding industry, which is mostly focused on brides, but not grooms. However, the influence of the West and Europe has made its own adjustments, and today the attitude towards the stamp in the passport is becoming more unobtrusive. Setting priorities, a modern woman does not give marriage in the first place, preferring to engage in self-realization. Moreover, the idea of girls striving for marriage even gave rise to a fear of marriage, not only among ladies, but also among gentlemen.